Ep 109. Unpacking Regret: The Truth About "Bad Decisions" and Missed Opportunities
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Episode Description:
Reflecting on her own experiences of pushing people away, Sarah unpacks how understanding the younger parts behind our decisions can help us replace self-punishment with compassion. She also discusses the importance of grieving what we've lost or never received, using the metaphor of pruning a rosebush to show how loss can make room for new growth. Listen in to discover how understanding your past can help you move beyond regret and open yourself to the life still waiting for you.
Episode Highlights:
[00:00] Introduction
[00:49] How regret can keep you stuck in shame and self-blame
[07:52] Why regret usually happens after an experience ends
[12:17] Sarah's experience of pushing away people who tried to love her
[15:10] Understanding the protective parts behind self-sabotage
[20:13] How younger protective parts can drive decisions you later regret
[24:28] Exploring the protective patterns behind your own regrets
[29:07] Reparenting your younger parts with compassion
[38:15] Why grieving the past makes room for new experiences
[43:08] Question 1 - How do I heal shame and regret over decisions I made because of childhood trauma?
[48:54] Question 2 - How do I keep believing in the life I want when healing takes so long?
[55:05] Question 3 - Does somatic completion need to be repeated to fully resolve trauma?
